Cutting Through the Assumed B.S.: What Women REALLY Are Looking for in a Man Online

There’s nothing more I love to do than read online dating advice articles. I’ve read thousands of them written by so-called “experts”. I don’t read them to pick-up on advice or look for new material for this Blog. I read them for laughs. It’s all the same B.S. I recently read an article about what women are looking for in a man. It was the same nonsense I’ve read countless times.


And very little of it is accurate. The accurate information in the article was very basic (i.e. women want a man that is confident…no kidding!). And, of course, just like every dating advice article, the obligatory “looks don’t matter at all” was included. I’m going to shoot that quote down in this article, and teach you the REAL qualities a woman looks for in a man online.

Women are looking attractive Man in a online

Women are looking attractive Man in a online

Looks do matter, but there’s always a “but”…

Yes, looks matter. BUT (see, I told you there was a “but”), your NATURAL looks matter very little. Sure, there are some very shallow women out there. And for those women, if you weren’t born a hot stud, you’ll never have a chance with her. But for the REAL women – or most of society – natural looks only get you so far. What a woman truly is looking for from a physical standpoint is a man that takes care of himself and wears nice clothes. Dress well, clean yourself up, and stay in shape. Seriously, that’s all you have to do to make women PHYSICALLY attracted to you.

Women physically attracted

Women physically attracted

A great sense of humor doesn’t really matter – being able to make her laugh does

Did that heading make any sense to you? Probably not. Let me explain. Those of us that are considered to have a great sense of humor really don’t. If we really did have a great sense of humor, don’t you think the folks over at the Chuckle Hut would offer to pay us to do stand-up? Women just want a man that can make them laugh. Stupid jokes (non-offensive ones, of course) often make women laugh. There’s no need to take comedy classes or recite lines from Chris Rock’s recent stand-up routine. Unless you actually are a professional comedian, you’re probably not as funny as you think. You just need to be able to have the occasional witty response to her comments/questions.

Someone that is on her level

Here’s the thing about women – they almost always refuse to date down. Does that mean a hot girl won’t date an average looking guy? Absolutely not. The average guy must make up for his lack of great looks in some other area. That’s how you balance things out. You might have an amazing skill that she finds attractive. Or you might be wealthy. Or you’re the most fun guy to hangout with. Or you’re really darn good in bed. Hot women know they’re hot. If you want to date a woman that’s hot and you’re not, you have to make up for it in some other area.

She finds attractive

She finds attractive