As a 27-year old woman, I’ve reached a point in my life where I want to settle down. I’ve done the one-night stands, dating the “bad boys”, and been through a few too many bad relationships. For the past 3 years, online dating has been my main avenue for meeting men. I was done with the bar scene because all I ever met were drunk guys just looking to hookup.
Unfortunately, the online dating game wasn’t much better. At least, not in my experience. The men I met were mostly total losers. It seems that online dating is more beneficial to men than women. Most of my guy friends have met some pretty amazing women online, but my girlfriends and myself have had different results. I know what you’re thinking – if I hated it so much, why did I stick with it for 3 years. Why not just give up after 3 months?
Truth be told, I did meet a couple of decent guys. And I’m just not one to give up on things quickly. I have patience. I am out to find a man to share the rest of my life with. In the process, most of what I have found are men that simply do not know how to treat a woman, nor do they care to learn. And most of the guys online are really only looking for sex despite their BS profiles.
I’ve reached the burning point. I can’t take it anymore. Even on sites such as eHarmony.com and Match.com, men are just looking for sex. I don’t understand it. There are plenty of hookup sites out there, yet men still sign-up for relationship sites expecting women to put out on a first date. I’m not saying women don’t do that. Many of my girlfriends do. However, I won’t put out on a first date and I want a man that’s looking for more than just sex. It seems like finding this type of man is impossible online.
I’m not the only woman that’s fed up with men online. I’ve talked to others that agree with me on how perverted the men they meet online are. If you’re a decent looking female – probably any female, really – you will receive countless daily emails from men. Of those countless emails, half will include pictures of male genitalia. If I wanted to see pictures of your junk, I would sign-up for a casual sex dating site – not eHarmony.com.
I will confess that I did meet a few great guys online. These were true gentlemen that weren’t just looking for sex. They actually wanted to establish a long-term relationship with a woman. Unfortunately, things didn’t work out with these guys but I was glad to meet them. I can’t say that for the other men I met online. They were anything BUT true gentlemen.
For those of you men reading this that want to try out online dating, use my experience as a reference. I guarantee you I’m not the only woman frustrated with online dating because of how classless most of the guys are. If you take a different approach than most guys, you’ll be in high demand. There are tons of us women that so desperately want to meet a mature gentleman – not a perverted little boy. It’s not that we hate sex. We love it as much as you. But for crying out loud, can’t you at least wait a few dates before showing me pictures of your penis? I don’t think that’s asking too much.