First Date Logistics: From Date to Sex is All About Planning

Since you’re reading this Blog post, I’m going to go ahead and assume you aren’t anti-sex on a first date. Many people are. And I understand that. Personally, if I’m really into a woman and the mood is right, I am likely to want to sleep with her on a first date. I don’t think that makes me a pig or her a slut. I’m never after JUST sex. But it’s part of any relationship and I think it’s nice to know if there we’re compatible in the bedroom before getting emotionally involved.


If you ask me, I think far fewer men and women would cheat on their spouse if they had sex early on in a relationship. A lousy sex life is the leading cause of cheating. If the sex wasn’t good right away, the relationship probably never would have evolved. So for those of you that are completely against having sex on a first date, this article is not for you. But for those of you that would like to get a girl into your bed – assuming things go well – here are some important pieces of advice…

Just sex

Just sex

Proximity to Your Home: No Long Drives

The first thing you must do is plan where you’re going to take her. If you want to get laid at the end of the night, it’s best to pick somewhere that is within 10-15 minutes of your home. If you go somewhere far away, she might get tired in the car and won’t be in the mood for sex.

Plan How You’re Going to Get Around

I realize not all of you have a car. And many of you live in cities where public transportation is the easiest way to get around (i.e. New York City). You’re going to be better off picking her up or at least driving to meet her. That way you don’t have to deal with taxis, trains, or buses. For those that must use public transportation, plan your route and estimate the time it will take you to get back home. I realize that taxis can be expensive, but it’s probably going to be your fastest public transportation option. Remember what I said earlier? The faster you get home, the better.

Never Assume She Won’t Have Sex on a First Date

If I had a nickel for every woman I had sex with on a first date that swore she wouldn’t, I’d be a very wealthy man. Women don’t like to be looked at as slutty. Putting out with a guy she’s just met is looked at as slutty behavior. So almost ALL of them will say they don’t put out on a first date. Most actually won’t have sex on a first date…unless she’s really into the guy and the mood is right. Hormones change everything.

Have Sex on a First Date

Have Sex on a First Date

How to Convince Her to Come Back to Your Place

It’s somewhat assumed that if she comes back to your place, you’re either going to have sex or at least fool around. She wouldn’t accept your invitation to go back to your house if she wasn’t wanting to at least makeout. With that said, I never openly invite a woman on a first date to come back to my place for sex or any sexual activity. It’s implied. After we’ve been out for a while and the conversation is great and she’s definitely shown interest in me, I simply ask her if she’d like to come back to my place and “cuddle and watch a movie”. This has worked like a charm for me.

 Sexual activity

Sexual activity