Lies People Commonly Tell When Online Dating

FACT: People lie. They lie on resumes. They lie to their spouse. And, yes, they lie on Internet dating sites. I’m not condoning dishonesty. I’m just saying it’s part of life. And when you sign-up for a dating site, you’ll certainly come across at least one woman that straight up lies to you about who she is and what she’s looking for. It’s always best to be honest when you’re out looking for a long-term relationship. You can only hide the lies for so long. I’ve noticed men and women lie about similar things online. Here are the most common lies told by online daters…


I do NOT have sex on a first date.”

This is probably a more commonly untruthful statement made by men that women, but don’t be fooled – some women are full of crap too. We all love sex and very few of us can control our hormones. This is not exclusive to men. When a date is going well and there’s sexual chemistry, you can’t deny your hormones. Some people have better self control than others, but the truth is even women will succumb to their hormones despite claiming to not put out on a first date.

Do not have sex on a first date

Do not have sex on a first date

“I’m not fat, just curvy”

This is almost entirely exclusive to women. If a woman refers to herself as “curvy”, you can just go ahead and assume she’s fat. Not always, but most of the time. Sometimes (rarely) curvy actually means she has incredibly sexy curves. Most likely, she knows she’s overweight and is trying to use a term that makes her sound more attractive.

Sexy curves

Sexy curves

“I’m open to dating men AND women”

Bi-sexual singles are almost always truly looking for one gender. That doesn’t mean a bi-sexual woman, for example, isn’t attracted to both men and women. It just means that she’s either going to date a man or a woman and really won’t consider either. Again, this isn’t ALWAYS true, but in most cases, it is. Women that experimented a few times with other women in college often consider themselves bi-sexual. Truthfully, they’re not.

 Bi-sexual woman

Bi-sexual woman

“Looks don’t matter, it’s all about personality”

This is the biggest load of crap anyone can ever say. Looks ALWAYS matter to some extent. To say they don’t matter at all is just silly. This is another statement made mostly by women, but sometimes men will lie about this as well. Most women don’t require a man look like Johnny Depp, but few will even consider a completely disgusting looking man. 99% of the time when you see this statement on an online dating profile, it’s a bold-faced lie.

My income exceeds (x-amount)”

Since men have always been considered the Bread Winners, we often lie about our income to impress women. Let’s face it – women like rich dudes. So why not brag about how much money you make? The truth about a man’s listed salary online is you can probably just assume he actually makes about $10,000-$20,000 less. Women lie about their income far less than men.