Dating Story: Why I Quit Online Dating

by Dating Site Reviews on October 19, 2012

As a 27-year old woman, I’ve reached a point in my life where I want to settle down. I’ve done the one-night stands, dating the “bad boys”, and been through a few too many bad relationships. For the past 3 years, online dating has been my main avenue for meeting men. I was done with the bar scene because all I ever met were drunk guys just looking to hookup.

Unfortunately, the online dating game wasn’t much better. At least, not in my experience. The men I met were mostly total losers. It seems that online dating is more beneficial to men than women. Most of my guy friends have met some pretty amazing women online, but my girlfriends and myself have had different results. I know what you’re thinking – if I hated it so much, why did I stick with it for 3 years. Why not just give up after 3 months?

Online dating

Truth be told, I did meet a couple of decent guys. And I’m just not one to give up on things quickly. I have patience. I am out to find a man to share the rest of my life with. In the process, most of what I have found are men that simply do not know how to treat a woman, nor do they care to learn. And most of the guys online are really only looking for sex despite their BS profiles.

I’ve reached the burning point. I can’t take it anymore. Even on sites such as eHarmony.com and Match.com, men are just looking for sex. I don’t understand it. There are plenty of hookup sites out there, yet men still sign-up for relationship sites expecting women to put out on a first date. I’m not saying women don’t do that. Many of my girlfriends do. However, I won’t put out on a first date and I want a man that’s looking for more than just sex. It seems like finding this type of man is impossible online.

Looking for sex

I’m not the only woman that’s fed up with men online. I’ve talked to others that agree with me on how perverted the men they meet online are. If you’re a decent looking female – probably any female, really – you will receive countless daily emails from men. Of those countless emails, half will include pictures of male genitalia. If I wanted to see pictures of your junk, I would sign-up for a casual sex dating site – not eHarmony.com.

I will confess that I did meet a few great guys online. These were true gentlemen that weren’t just looking for sex. They actually wanted to establish a long-term relationship with a woman. Unfortunately, things didn’t work out with these guys but I was glad to meet them. I can’t say that for the other men I met online. They were anything BUT true gentlemen.

Casual sex dating

For those of you men reading this that want to try out online dating, use my experience as a reference. I guarantee you I’m not the only woman frustrated with online dating because of how classless most of the guys are. If you take a different approach than most guys, you’ll be in high demand. There are tons of us women that so desperately want to meet a mature gentleman – not a perverted little boy. It’s not that we hate sex. We love it as much as you. But for crying out loud, can’t you at least wait a few dates before showing me pictures of your penis? I don’t think that’s asking too much.

What Every Guy Should Look for in a Woman Online

by Dating Site Reviews on October 17, 2012

We all have different types of women we’re interested in because no two guys are the same. I like a woman with a good job, no kids, a nice body, and is down to earth. You might desire completely different qualities in a woman. I didn’t write this post convince you to date women I’m into. There are certain qualities EVERY man should look for in a woman he meets online. I wrote this post to inform you of those qualities…

She is who she says she is

The only thing I dislike about online dating is the amount of liars I come across. Men do this as well, so I’m not singling out the women here. Women lie about many different things online. They claim they are 100% drama-free and want a man that is too. Then you meet her and she lays out all of her baggage and leaves you wondering why the hell she told you she’s drama-free. Only date women that are honest online. If she claims to be something she isn’t and then you find this out after meeting her, ditch her. A woman that can’t be honest online is afraid of who she really is. She’s afraid no one will love her for who she is.

Online dating

Doesn’t come with unnecessary baggage

If you’ve spent much time around women, you know many of them are just plain crazy. If she has an ex-boyfriend that she just won’t shut the heck up about, don’t even bother with her. Crazy women date crazy guys. They can’t be with someone that’s normal because they get off on being treated like dirt. If she’s constantly bashing her ex because of the way he treated her, she still has a thing for him and once that crazy ex comes back into play, she’ll cheat on you with him. It happens every time.

Is willing to respond, within a reasonable time period, to your text messages, emails, and IM’s

Don’t even bother with a woman that takes forever to respond to your messages. She’s probably seeing 5 other guys or just isn’t all that interested in you. Chances are she’s testing the waters to see if she can find someone she thinks is better than you. Don’t constantly send her messages asking her why she hasn’t responded. If she wanted to speak to you, she would have contacted you quicker. Women – busy or not – always find a way to get a hold of a man they’re interested in. The only other excuse for her not responding quickly is that she’s too dumb to know how to text/IM. That’s another reason not to date her.

Crazy women date crazy guys

You find her physically attractive

I’m not going to lie – looks matter to me and they should to you. That doesn’t mean I (or you) must date a Supermodel. But there needs to be great sexual chemistry for any relationship to last. Yes, you most certainly can become more attracted to a woman as you get to know her. And I’m not shallow by any means. But I need to be at least somewhat physically attracted to my girlfriend if it’s going to last. And I think you should too. Well, to your girlfriend…not mine!

Great sexual chemistry

First Date Logistics: From Date to Sex is All About Planning

by Dating Site Reviews on October 14, 2012

Since you’re reading this Blog post, I’m going to go ahead and assume you aren’t anti-sex on a first date. Many people are. And I understand that. Personally, if I’m really into a woman and the mood is right, I am likely to want to sleep with her on a first date. I don’t think that makes me a pig or her a slut. I’m never after JUST sex. But it’s part of any relationship and I think it’s nice to know if there we’re compatible in the bedroom before getting emotionally involved.

If you ask me, I think far fewer men and women would cheat on their spouse if they had sex early on in a relationship. A lousy sex life is the leading cause of cheating. If the sex wasn’t good right away, the relationship probably never would have evolved. So for those of you that are completely against having sex on a first date, this article is not for you. But for those of you that would like to get a girl into your bed – assuming things go well – here are some important pieces of advice…

Just sex

Proximity to Your Home: No Long Drives

The first thing you must do is plan where you’re going to take her. If you want to get laid at the end of the night, it’s best to pick somewhere that is within 10-15 minutes of your home. If you go somewhere far away, she might get tired in the car and won’t be in the mood for sex.

Plan How You’re Going to Get Around

I realize not all of you have a car. And many of you live in cities where public transportation is the easiest way to get around (i.e. New York City). You’re going to be better off picking her up or at least driving to meet her. That way you don’t have to deal with taxis, trains, or buses. For those that must use public transportation, plan your route and estimate the time it will take you to get back home. I realize that taxis can be expensive, but it’s probably going to be your fastest public transportation option. Remember what I said earlier? The faster you get home, the better.

Never Assume She Won’t Have Sex on a First Date

If I had a nickel for every woman I had sex with on a first date that swore she wouldn’t, I’d be a very wealthy man. Women don’t like to be looked at as slutty. Putting out with a guy she’s just met is looked at as slutty behavior. So almost ALL of them will say they don’t put out on a first date. Most actually won’t have sex on a first date…unless she’s really into the guy and the mood is right. Hormones change everything.

Have Sex on a First Date

How to Convince Her to Come Back to Your Place

It’s somewhat assumed that if she comes back to your place, you’re either going to have sex or at least fool around. She wouldn’t accept your invitation to go back to your house if she wasn’t wanting to at least makeout. With that said, I never openly invite a woman on a first date to come back to my place for sex or any sexual activity. It’s implied. After we’ve been out for a while and the conversation is great and she’s definitely shown interest in me, I simply ask her if she’d like to come back to my place and “cuddle and watch a movie”. This has worked like a charm for me.

Sexual activity

Cutting Through the Assumed B.S.: What Women REALLY Are Looking for in a Man Online

by Dating Site Reviews on October 12, 2012

There’s nothing more I love to do than read online dating advice articles. I’ve read thousands of them written by so-called “experts”. I don’t read them to pick-up on advice or look for new material for this Blog. I read them for laughs. It’s all the same B.S. I recently read an article about what women are looking for in a man. It was the same nonsense I’ve read countless times.

And very little of it is accurate. The accurate information in the article was very basic (i.e. women want a man that is confident…no kidding!). And, of course, just like every dating advice article, the obligatory “looks don’t matter at all” was included. I’m going to shoot that quote down in this article, and teach you the REAL qualities a woman looks for in a man online.

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Looks do matter, but there’s always a “but”…

Yes, looks matter. BUT (see, I told you there was a “but”), your NATURAL looks matter very little. Sure, there are some very shallow women out there. And for those women, if you weren’t born a hot stud, you’ll never have a chance with her. But for the REAL women – or most of society – natural looks only get you so far. What a woman truly is looking for from a physical standpoint is a man that takes care of himself and wears nice clothes. Dress well, clean yourself up, and stay in shape. Seriously, that’s all you have to do to make women PHYSICALLY attracted to you.

Women physically attracted

A great sense of humor doesn’t really matter – being able to make her laugh does

Did that heading make any sense to you? Probably not. Let me explain. Those of us that are considered to have a great sense of humor really don’t. If we really did have a great sense of humor, don’t you think the folks over at the Chuckle Hut would offer to pay us to do stand-up? Women just want a man that can make them laugh. Stupid jokes (non-offensive ones, of course) often make women laugh. There’s no need to take comedy classes or recite lines from Chris Rock’s recent stand-up routine. Unless you actually are a professional comedian, you’re probably not as funny as you think. You just need to be able to have the occasional witty response to her comments/questions.

Someone that is on her level

Here’s the thing about women – they almost always refuse to date down. Does that mean a hot girl won’t date an average looking guy? Absolutely not. The average guy must make up for his lack of great looks in some other area. That’s how you balance things out. You might have an amazing skill that she finds attractive. Or you might be wealthy. Or you’re the most fun guy to hangout with. Or you’re really darn good in bed. Hot women know they’re hot. If you want to date a woman that’s hot and you’re not, you have to make up for it in some other area.

She finds attractive

Why the “Right One” is Waiting for You Online, Not in a Bar

by Dating Site Reviews on October 9, 2012

I did the bar scene for a long time. I’d go out, have a few drinks, spot the cuties in the bar and then make my approach. It was a good time while it lasted. However, most of the relationships with the women I met in bars evolved beyond sex. In fact, I never met a girl at a bar that I ended up in a relationship with for more than a few months. The quality of women I met in bars was low. Sure, many of them were attractive. But that’s all they had going for them.

You probably know some people that are currently married or in a long-term relationship with someone they met in a bar. I know plenty of people that have. So I’m not saying you CAN’T find love in a bar. But your chances are slim. When alcohol is involved, bad decisions are often made.

Waiting for You Online

You can’t pre-qualify women in bars

Let’s say you’re out to meet a woman, so you head out to the local pub. You see a handful of attractive women. How do you decide which ones to approach? How do you know who the single women are? Just because a woman is sitting up at the bar alone doesn’t mean she’s single. How do you know which women, if any at all, you have anything in common with?

You know absolutely nothing about the women you see when you walk into a bar other than how physically attractive they are. You don’t know if they’re single. You don’t know if they’re looking to meet someone. You don’t know if you’re their type or if you have anything in common with them. These are the main reasons I hate trying to meet women in bars. I can’t pre-qualify them like I do online. When I’m scooping out the hotties in a bar, I just have to approach a woman and talk to her first before finding out if we are compatible or if she’s even single.

Physically attractive

Finding someone in a bar that’s a good match for you is time consuming since we don’t know anything about them prior to making an approach. I usually have to chat with 4-5 women before finding one I’d even consider going out on a date with. Now let’s say you “approach” women online. Before sending her an email, you at least know some things about her, assuming you took the time to read her profile. You can’t always know she’ll be your type from her profile, but you’ll have a good idea that she is.

I said when alcohol is involved bad decisions are made…

Chances are either you or her will be slightly impaired when meeting in a bar. We tend to be interested in someone that we normally wouldn’t be when drunk. Plus, there’s always the chance you’ll end up having sex with her that night. If you have sex with a woman the first night you meet her, the relationship probably won’t last. It will most likely end up being a one-night stand.

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A drunk woman may seem interesting. She may seem interested in you. When she sobers up, you’ll see a completely different side of her. She may not be into you once she sobers up. And even if she is, there’s always the possibility that you won’t like her sober personality. Alcohol has a tendency to get people to open up. It might turn out that she’s a very boring person when sober.

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