I did the bar scene for a long time. I’d go out, have a few drinks, spot the cuties in the bar and then make my approach. It was a good time while it lasted. However, most of the relationships with the women I met in bars evolved beyond sex. In fact, I never met a girl at a bar that I ended up in a relationship with for more than a few months. The quality of women I met in bars was low. Sure, many of them were attractive. But that’s all they had going for them.
You probably know some people that are currently married or in a long-term relationship with someone they met in a bar. I know plenty of people that have. So I’m not saying you CAN’T find love in a bar. But your chances are slim. When alcohol is involved, bad decisions are often made.
You can’t pre-qualify women in bars
Let’s say you’re out to meet a woman, so you head out to the local pub. You see a handful of attractive women. How do you decide which ones to approach? How do you know who the single women are? Just because a woman is sitting up at the bar alone doesn’t mean she’s single. How do you know which women, if any at all, you have anything in common with?
You know absolutely nothing about the women you see when you walk into a bar other than how physically attractive they are. You don’t know if they’re single. You don’t know if they’re looking to meet someone. You don’t know if you’re their type or if you have anything in common with them. These are the main reasons I hate trying to meet women in bars. I can’t pre-qualify them like I do online. When I’m scooping out the hotties in a bar, I just have to approach a woman and talk to her first before finding out if we are compatible or if she’s even single.
Finding someone in a bar that’s a good match for you is time consuming since we don’t know anything about them prior to making an approach. I usually have to chat with 4-5 women before finding one I’d even consider going out on a date with. Now let’s say you “approach” women online. Before sending her an email, you at least know some things about her, assuming you took the time to read her profile. You can’t always know she’ll be your type from her profile, but you’ll have a good idea that she is.
I said when alcohol is involved bad decisions are made…
Chances are either you or her will be slightly impaired when meeting in a bar. We tend to be interested in someone that we normally wouldn’t be when drunk. Plus, there’s always the chance you’ll end up having sex with her that night. If you have sex with a woman the first night you meet her, the relationship probably won’t last. It will most likely end up being a one-night stand.
A drunk woman may seem interesting. She may seem interested in you. When she sobers up, you’ll see a completely different side of her. She may not be into you once she sobers up. And even if she is, there’s always the possibility that you won’t like her sober personality. Alcohol has a tendency to get people to open up. It might turn out that she’s a very boring person when sober.